Last year, I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety.
And from then on, I just felt like my entire life began to crumble. Eventually, my depression just made it impossible for me to continue working (especially since I was working in a very toxic and stressful environment) and even doing the simplest and easiest task became too daunting.
I had zero savings. I had no backup plan. My whole life was a mess. I was so lost and confused.
Every day, I would wake up hating myself. I wake up feeling worthless and hopeless – I felt like the easiest and only option left for me was to just give up.
We all reach a certain point in life where we feel like giving up is our easiest way out.
We wake up feeling exhausted and unwilling to start the day.
We constantly think of how much we struggled the day before or how many times we have already failed – that there’s just no point in trying anymore.
After having to quit my job, I have experienced so many setbacks. I was slapped with so many disappointments, faced so much hurt that I started to believe that death was so much better than living.
That to give up on life was so much easier than to continue fighting.
If you can in any way relate to these statements, here’s what I want you to remember…
You always deserve the best
After falling into the pit of depression, I started to believe that I was no longer worthy.
That I didn’t deserve to be happy, to be loved, to succeed. I held on to the belief that I didn’t deserve the best – because I wasn’t even close to being the best.
And giving up was just the right thing to do.
But here’s the thing, no matter how many times you may have failed, made mistakes, fell into depression, you still and always will deserve the best!
You deserve to live the life that you want. You deserve to go after your dreams and achieve your goals.
You deserve to laugh. To be happy. To be loved. You deserve nothing but the best.
Stop letting yourself believe that just because you’re struggling or failing, you’re no longer worthy and that giving up is your only option.
Because it’s not and it never will be – you will always deserve the best.
So, keep fighting. Keep trying!
Strength and Courage are not always loud
After experiencing setbacks after setbacks, I’ve come to believe that I was not strong enough to face and conquer anything anymore.
I started labeling myself as weak. I started telling myself that it will be a whole lot easier for me to just give up since I didn’t have enough courage and strength to push forward and continue trying – but I was wrong.
Remember that courage and strength don’t always roar. It’s not always bold and loud.
More often, it is found on the little things that we do.
It is found on days where we wanted to just stay in bed, yet we still chose to get up.
It is found on days where we wanted to just end everything yet we chose to stay.
It is found on days where we tell ourselves “I’ll try again tomorrow”.
Never let yourself believe that you are not strong enough or brave enough to continue and try again – because you are!
Within you, there is invaluable strength and immeasurable courage – always remember that.
Trust that the Universe has plans for you
After hitting an all-time low, I said to myself: “This is it. This is what life is for me. Just disappointments and despair”
I started to believe that I was never meant for great things. That I no longer serve any purpose – and that thought drained the life out of me every day.
When I was about to raise my hands and give up the fight, someone very dear to me said this: Just have a little faith that the Universe has plans for you.
And I didn’t know what it was but that statement hit me so hard that I cried.
Now, I make this my daily mantra – especially on days where I need to fight extra hard just to get through it.
We may not always know why things don’t go our way or why some things fall apart but if we just keep a little courage to stick around, we will then realize that those things had to fall apart to make way for something better.
Sometimes we all need to lose first in order for us to gain something.
Sometimes we all need to go through pain, sorrows, and struggles in order for us to reach our greatest purpose.
Mistakes mean that you’re actually doing something
When I was young, I was made to believe that mistakes were a bad thing – that they should be avoided at all cost.
I was made to believe that mistakes mean failure. So, I did everything to avoid it. I was always chasing for perfection.
Doing that broke me. It took so much toll on me.
That’s why I want you to know that you should never let the fear of failure and mistakes paralyze you. You should never allow them to keep you from going after your dreams.
Mistakes are not always a bad thing. Yes, they hurt. Sometimes it causes us pain but it is also proof that we are trying – that we are actually doing something.
If we just sit and watch, we may not need to worry about making mistakes but we are also stopping ourselves from learning.
Real learning comes from making mistakes. So, go after your dreams, make mistakes, learn from them and try again!
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” – Harriet Beecher Stowe
I know sometimes life doesn’t always make sense. There are days when you feel like all you do is try and still end up with nothing but I want you to keep reminding yourself that sometimes we all need to go through the darkness in order for us to fulfill our greatest purpose.
Pain, setbacks, and struggles are inevitable for growth and success. Someday all the pieces will come together.
Just Remember the things that you deserve, keep fighting and continue to push forward – you got this!
What other powerful reminders help you keep going when you feel like giving up? Let me know in the comment section below or send me an email, I would love to hear from you!
I am not a licensed therapist. If you are suffering from a major disorder and need treatment please seek the help of a professional to get the help you deserve.