Starting a new chapter in life is not always easy and exciting. Sometimes it can also be painful, terrifying, and even overwhelming.
Before the year 2022 even ended, my life was hit with so many big and sudden changes.
For someone who doesn’t really do well with change, to me, it felt so overwhelming to the point that there were days when I felt like I was drowning and I couldn’t breathe.
Not only was I extremely terrified to start this new chapter in my life but quite frankly, it was also heartbreaking. I wasn’t ready to close the door and put an end to that chapter of my life.
I wanted things to stay the same. I wanted things to be the way they used to be. I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve spent crying myself to sleep.
How many days I’ve spent walking around in the fog without a clue as to how I’m going to move forward.
But as I continued to navigate this season of my life, I’ve learned that regardless of how negative the reasons that brought us to this moment or how terrifying it may seem at first, we can take certain steps along the way that can help us make the transition easier.
In this post, I will share with you the steps I’ve taken that drastically helped me start a new chapter in life. I’m hoping that these steps will help you on your journey too.
At the end of this post, you will also find some of my favorite new chapter in life quotes that you can read to lift your spirits and remind you that you have the power to make a change!
How To Start A New Chapter In Life
1. Slow Down And Take A Deep Breath
I know how overwhelming starting a new chapter in life can be. It’s so easy to get swept away by our worries, anxiety, and negative thoughts that’s why it’s so important to slow down and allow yourself to take a deep breath.
Just breathe. Breathe in courage and strength. Breathe out worries and stress.
Remember that you are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for. Whatever it is that you are going through right now, you have within you the power to surpass it and come out of it stronger and wiser.
Don’t let yourself be swept away by your worries. Every time you feel like you’re spiraling from so much stress and anxiety, slow down, stop what you’re doing, and take a deep breath. You got this!
2. Be Kind To Yourself
There’s no better time to be kinder to yourself than this. I know how easy it is to continuously beat ourselves up and blame ourselves for all our past mistakes.
When I was starting a new chapter in life, I took so many regrets with me. I continuously blamed myself for all the bad decisions I’d made.
I constantly put myself down and let me tell you, that kind of habit did not make this change easier for me.
It only made me feel worse. It shattered my self-esteem and it just made it harder for me to move forward.
I’ve learned that in every moment of our lives, especially when we are already going through tough times, it’s important to give ourselves grace and learn to be kind to ourselves.
There’s no use in criticizing your every little mistake. Yes, I know sometimes tough love is needed especially if it serves as a wake-up call or to motivate us and fuel our motivation.
But the problem starts if we do this constantly without realizing that what we are doing is already negatively impacting our self confidence and mental health.
It’s time to learn to be your own best friend. Give yourself love and compassion, you deserve it.
3. Don’t Bottle Up Your Emotions
For some people, when we have a lot on our plate or when we are going through big changes, it’s easy to set all our emotions aside, bottle them up and just go on and keep pretending that we are okay.
I’m no stranger to this habit. When I was closing a chapter in my life, I was so heartbroken and overwhelmed.
I wanted to cry so hard and maybe even scream but instead of allowing myself to feel, I chose to run away from it.
And yeah maybe it worked for some time but eventually all those emotions caught up to me and it just made it even more difficult to face them.
I know that you may think that letting yourself cry and feel is a waste of time.
That your time is much better spent crossing things off your to-do list but sometimes, the best thing that we can do for ourselves is to allow ourselves the chance to vent and to feel.
Doing this not only helps alleviate the burden that you have carrying for so long but also paves the way to healing and moving forward.
Always remember that it’s okay to cry. Being vulnerable and admitting that you are not okay will never make you look weak. It’s quite the opposite, vulnerability takes a whole lot of courage and strength.
4. Create A New Routine
Creating a new routine has tremendously helped make starting a new chapter in life less overwhelming. It gave me a sense of control which is very helpful, especially during this time when all the uncertainties can easily be too overbearing.
This is especially helpful if you feel lost, stuck, and confused like me. Creating a new routine can help you see things from a different perspective and it can also do wonders for your creativity and productivity.
It can be the jump start that you need to spark your motivation again. It’s always best to create a routine that works for you.
Here’s a great blog post from The Spruce that’ll help you create the perfect daily routine!
5. Let Go Of Toxic Habits
Starting a new chapter in life can also be the perfect time to start rethinking all your habits.
Are you still clinging to habits that are dragging you down and negatively impacting your mental health?
I definitely was. Before I was even hit with these big sudden transitions in my life, I was already feeling defeated and stuck and frankly, I was also unhappy.
I knew I needed to make a change but I was so comfortable with my routine that it was just making it more difficult to let go of those toxic habits.
So, when everything in my life was turned around, I knew that I didn’t want to take these habits with me.
I knew I wanted to start over. I wanted to make things easier and I knew that if I continued to cling to these toxic habits it will only make things harder for me.
Remember that you don’t have to take a huge leap right away, especially if it will only make you feel overwhelmed.
You can start small. Take it one step at a time. The important thing is to be consistent and keep going.
6. Allow Yourself To Try New Things
This is the perfect time to allow yourself to explore new things. Start a new chapter in life by opening yourself up to new opportunities, new hobbies, and new adventures.
Doing this will make this journey more exciting. It will allow you to learn more about yourself, and the things that you like or even don’t. Allow yourself the chance to see new adventures and explore the wonderful things that life still has to offer.
7. Allow Yourself The Chance To Reflect
While starting new chapters can definitely be scary, it can also be the perfect time to reinvent ourselves. It can be the perfect time to start over and become the person that you were always meant to be.
And for you to do this, you must first allow yourself the chance to reflect on things.
What was the greatest lesson that the last chapter in your life taught you? Where do you want to go from here?
What are the things that you want to improve about yourself to help you grow and live your life more meaningfully?
Take the time to really think about these things. Doing this will give you a sense of clarity on what steps you need to take moving forward to help you successfully start a new chapter in life.
8. Revisit Your Goals
This goes hand in hand with what was mentioned above. Since you’re starting a new beginning in your life, it’s time to revisit your goals and priorities.
Are they still the same as your goals in the past? Are you making enough time for the things that are important to you?
When I was transitioning into these big changes in my life, I realized that some of my past goals no longer align with the person that I wanted to become.
I knew I needed to revisit them, and determine my priorities in life for me to spend my time more meaningfully, since I already know where to concentrate my efforts on.
So, take the time to sit down and write down all your goals and reflect on your priorities. What are the things that are important to you?
What are the things that make you happy and excited to wake up to in the morning?
How do you want to spend your life?
9. Make A Plan and Take Action
After determining your goals and priorities in life, the next thing that you can do is to make a plan. What are the steps that you need to take to achieve your new goals? Write down all the things that you need to do.
Remember to break down the bigger tasks into smaller ones. This will make it less overwhelming and a whole lot easier for you to follow through and stick with it.
And if you do start to feel paralyzed by all the changes and stress. Remember to pause and take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you don’t have to take big steps.
Take small ones if you must. The important thing is to keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep going.
10. Live One Day At A Time
There’s no denying that new beginnings and new chapters in life can be overwhelming.
When our life is turned upside down and when we are faced with so many big changes, it’s easy to feel consumed and overwhelmed by all the uncertainties. That’s why it’s important to live one day at a time.
When you are still clinging to the past or constantly fixating on the future, you are not only robbing yourself of the chance to enjoy the good things that are unfolding in front of you but you are also missing out on the chance to actually start living your new beginning.
Learning to focus on the present moment and living each day as it comes did not only help alleviate all the stress and worry that I was feeling but also helped me appreciate and enjoy the things that were happening in my life now.
11. Start Loving Yourself More
Starting a new chapter in life can be a great opportunity to open yourself up to growth and unlock your fullest potential.
Why not take this time to start prioritizing yourself and loving yourself more.
For the longest time, I was guilty of taking myself for granted. I constantly put myself down and I had always put all my needs on the back burner believing that my needs don’t matter.
I didn’t really realize the full extent of how my actions have negatively affected my mental health and confidence.
It made me hate myself more and more every day and it made me so unhappy. I didn’t want to live my life like that anymore.
I have always believed that for me to be enough, I had to constantly earn it but I was wrong. If you feel this way too, please know that you are enough and worthy just as you are now.
You deserve love and happiness. You don’t have to constantly prove yourself and wait for other people’s approval just to feel worthy. The only validation you will ever need is your own.
Loving yourself is not something that you can start doing today and forget about it the next day. I’ve learned that it is a journey. It is something that you have to consciously choose every single day.
Take this new beginning as the perfect time to start loving yourself more.
Take this 30-day Self Love Challenge to help you start this journey toward self-love.
12. Be Grateful
When you are starting a new chapter in life, there will be hard days and moments when you feel like everything around is just falling apart.
During those days, it’s easy to feel hopeless, and bitter and think of everything negatively. I was guilty of doing this too.
But I’ve learned that if you constantly focus on the bad things and complain about every little inconvenience, you are actually reframing your mind to only focus on all the negative things that you eventually end up taking the good things that are happening to you for granted.
Yes, sometimes life can be difficult but focusing only on the bad things will only make things harder that’s why it’s so important that in every moment of our lives, we have to learn to be grateful.
We have to practice daily gratitude to remind ourselves that even though life is hard right now, there is still hope. There is still something to be thankful for.
We may have to look extra hard for those things during bad days but it’s there.
13. Trust That Things Will Eventually Fall Into Place
When I was navigating this new chapter in life, there’s no denying how much I was struggling. I felt lost and most days, I just felt hopeless.
I started to believe that I will never be able to learn how to move forward with my new life.
I kept believing that this new chapter will only go from bad to worse and that regardless of what I do, everything will still fall apart and I will never be happy again.
And during those moments, one of the things that helped me keep persevering is by trusting that things will eventually fall into place.
Yes, things may be hard right now, you may feel like everything around you is just falling apart but please know that as long as you keep going, and keep taking action, eventually things will fall into place and soon everything will get better.
14. Let Go Of Control
How many times have you spent so much time and effort trying to control every little detail of your life only to be met with disappointment when things don’t go as planned?
You’re definitely not alone on this. I have always had this bad habit of wanting to control every little aspect of my life thinking that by doing this I’m preventing things from going wrong.
But of course, that’s definitely not the case because regardless of how hard we try and how much time and effort we put into it, we still can’t control everything.
Even if we have a plan A, plan B, plan C, or even a plan D, things can still fall apart because there will always be something that is out of our control.
Since we are starting this new chapter in life, there may be a lot of uncertain things, we may feel lost and we may have zero clue as to how things will unfold and how we will move forward, that’s why it’s so important to learn to let go of control.
If we continue to try to control every little thing, we will only be more disappointed when things don’t go as planned. It will only make starting this chapter harder and more overwhelming.
We have to remind ourselves that it’s okay to let go of control. It’s time to set ourselves free and live every moment as they come.
15. Embrace Change And Uncertainties
This goes hand in hand with what I’ve mentioned above. One of the first things that I have to learn for me to slowly let go of control is to embrace change and accept all the uncertainties of life.
Truth be told, it was terrifying. I have always had this mindset that as long as I’m trying to control things, I can predict the outcome of things, and that way I can prevent any changes that I don’t favor.
But life doesn’t happen that way. Change is inevitable. There will always be uncertainties and regardless of how hard we try to predict the outcome of things, there’s still no guarantee that things will actually happen that way.
Spending so much of our time, attention, and effort on those things will only rob us of the chance to live every moment of our lives.
Life is by far too precious to waste so much of our time being afraid of change and controlling things. Instead, let’s focus all our energy on the things that we can actually control and just embrace the journey of life.
If you’re also starting a new chapter in life, please know that it’s okay to feel terrified, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be confused and to feel lost.
Whatever you are feeling right now is valid and don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. While you may feel so low right now, please know that things will get better.
And if you’re someone who’s thinking of starting a new beginning or making a change, always remember that you have within you the power to make it happen.
All you have to do is to believe in what you can do and just take the first step.
You got this. Don’t forget to also read these new chapter in life quotes that I have gathered below. You can write these quotes in your journal to remind you that it’s never too late to start over and create the life that you want.
New Chapter In Life Quotes
Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.
— Oprah Winfrey
It’s never too late to become who you want to be. I hope you live a life that you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.
— F. Scott Fitzgerald
Nothing is predestined. The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.
— Ralph Blum
I discovered that a fresh start is a process. A fresh start is a journey – a journey that requires a plan.
— Vivian Jokotade
Let’s forget the baggage of the past and make a new beginning.
— Shahbaz Sharif
Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.
— Guy Finley
No one can ever take your memories from you – each day is a new beginning, make good memories every day.
— Catherine Pulsifer
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
— C. S. Lewis
There will come a time when you believe everything is finished; that will be the beginning.
— Louis L’Amour
Once you realize you deserve a bright future, letting go of your dark past is the best choice you will ever make.
— Roy T. Bennett