12 Powerful Ways To Rebuild Yourself And Rise Above Adversities

Have you ever found yourself at the lowest point of your life and the thought of rebuilding yourself and picking yourself back up just seems impossible?

I can’t even begin to tell you the number of times I have found myself in the same situation. As someone who has experienced a fair share of storms, failures, disappointments and obstacles, I know how difficult it can be to find the motivation and hope to rebuild yourself.

I remember those moments when life just seems to keep hitting me with one challenge after another. One pain and heartbreak after another. Constantly knocking me down and draining every bit of strength and courage left in me.

In moments like these, it’s so easy to start believing that we will never be able to pick ourselves up and turn our life around. It’s so easy to lose hope and start thinking that our life will only ever go from bad to worse.

I thought this too and for the longest time, I’ve allowed myself to believe that I will always be unhappy and that life will never get better for me, it’s just not in the cards.

But man was I wrong. That’s why I want you to know that regardless of how low and defeated you may feel right now, you have what it takes to create a better life and a more resilient version of yourself.

You have the power within you to rebuild yourself and change your life for the better. In this post, I want to share with you some tips and lessons that have helped me rebuild myself and I’m hoping that these will help you in your journey too.

How To Rebuild Yourself

1. Take It Day By Day

There’s no denying that rebuilding yourself can be a challenging thing to do, especially when life gets hard. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed by all the changes that you have to make that’s why it’s so important to take it day by day.

When I was going through the process of rebuilding myself, probably one of the most important lessons that I’ve learned is that rebuilding yourself is not going to be straightforward.

There will be days when your drive and motivation will be challenged. Days when you feel like everything is just too overbearing and picking yourself up may not really be possible.

I’ve learned that the best thing that you can do on days like these is to take each day as it comes. Instead of focusing all your energy on the problems and worries of tomorrow, focus on the things that you can do now.

Focus on the little changes that you can make today. The little steps that you can take today to help you move forward in your journey toward creating a better life.

Doing this will make everything feel less overwhelming and terrifying.

2. Be Kinder To Yourself

There’s no better time to be kinder to yourself and to give yourself grace than now. When we make mistakes or go through difficult seasons, and disappointments, it’s so easy to beat ourselves up for it.

It’s so easy to constantly put ourselves down and criticize our every little flaw and failure. I’m no stranger to this feeling. When I hit rock bottom, I would constantly blame and beat myself up for all the bad decisions that I’ve made.

All my failures and every little thing that I have done that has led me to this. I thought that it would help me and keep me motivated but it only did the exact opposite. By doing that, I didn’t realize that little by little I was slowly crushing my confidence, my determination, and most of all my hope.

You have to learn to give yourself grace. Instead of beating yourself up, recognize the effort that you are doing to rebuild yourself. Congratulate yourself for not giving up.

Recognize your strength, your resilience, and your drive. Learn to cheer yourself on and be your very own best friend.

3. Allow Yourself To Feel

I have always been guilty of choosing to keep everything that I feel bottled up instead of facing them. Even when I was at my lowest, I still pretended to be perfectly okay. I pretended to be okay to everyone around me and even to myself.

I thought that doing this was helping me. To be perfectly honest, I really believed that if I just kept running away from what I’m really feeling, eventually it will all just go away and I won’t have to face them.

But of course, that’s not the case. Because the reality is, sooner or later, all those emotions will eventually catch up to us. All of them will come pouring out at once which only makes it more difficult for us to overcome them.

Avoiding your emotions is not going to help you rebuild yourself. The more that you bottle them up, the longer you are keeping yourself stuck and unable to move forward and truly heal.

Know that being vulnerable will never make you weak. I actually believe that there is true strength and courage in allowing ourselves to feel. We must always remind ourselves that for us to heal, we have to go through it and let ourselves feel.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries

How many times have you overextended yourself to other people? How many times have you said yes to things you didn’t even want to do in the first place because you were so afraid of disappointing other people?

When I was going through the process of rebuilding myself after hitting my all-time low, I’ve learned that one of the best things that you can do while going through this journey is by creating a safe space for yourself.

A space where you are allowed to heal, grow and move forward without being pulled by the noise of other people’s expectations and demands.

One of the key aspects of rebuilding yourself is learning to protect your emotional and mental health and that really isn’t possible if you will still allow yourself to be pulled in a million different directions because of other people’s expectations and approval of you.

We have to remind ourselves that setting healthy boundaries is not a bad thing. It is actually essential in helping us build more meaningful connections with other people and improve our self-worth for us to live a more fulfilling life.

5. Make Self Care A Priority

How many times have you put your needs on the back burner thinking that they are really not that important? How many times have you consistently said no to yourself and taken yourself for granted?

You’re definitely not alone on this. I have been guilty of doing this for the longest time. I continued to push myself and over-extended myself to other people without any regard for how I was really feeling.

I truly believed that as long as I was checking things off my to-do list, regardless of how burnout I was, I was still doing perfectly okay.

It wasn’t until the day I found myself at rock bottom that I realized how wrong it was for me to continue pushing myself without really thinking of what I was truly feeling.

I’ve learned that self care is a necessity. It is not something that we can just check off our to-do list once a year and just forget about it the next. It is something that we have to constantly make time for and it is actually one of the best things that we can do for ourselves.

You deserve to make time for yourself. You deserve to put your needs first. Doing that is not selfish. It is something that we have to do if we want to continue doing it for others.

6. Let Go Of Toxic Habits

I believe that rebuilding yourself is picking yourself up and creating a better version of yourself and we can’t truly do that if we are still holding on to our toxic habits and mindsets.

As the saying goes, we can’t do the same things over and over again and expect different outcomes. We can’t expect different results if we are still holding on to the same old toxic habits and mindsets.

The only way for us to improve our lives is by making a change. Take this time as the perfect opportunity to let go of those toxic habits. Let go of what no longer serves you.

You don’t have to make big changes in your habits all at once. Remember that you can take small steps and make small and attainable changes every single day.

7. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help

There’s no denying that rebuilding yourself can easily become too overwhelming and emotionally draining that’s why it’s important to ask for help and support from the people that you trust and love.

I know that often when we are going through difficult times or making big changes, we want to just handle everything on our own.

We are often afraid to reach out or talk to someone about what we are going through because we don’t want to burden them with our struggles. I believed this too and sometimes if I’m being honest, I still struggle with that belief from time to time.

But one of the most important things that I’ve learned when I hit my rock bottom is, you will never be a burden to the people who truly love and care for you.

Yes, they may not exactly know what you are going through but they are more than willing to listen and hold your hand while you are going through the darkest season of your life.

Remind yourself that asking for help is not a sign of failure or weakness. I truly believe that recognizing that you need help and asking for it is a sign of true strength and courage.

There is invaluable strength in learning to accept that you need help and in your willingness to reach out and ask for assistance.

8. Try New Things And Seek Out New Experiences

The process of rebuilding yourself can also be a great avenue for learning more about yourself. It can be the perfect time to step outside your comfort zone and explore new things.

While I was going through this journey, I learned that often rebuilding yourself involves facing your fears head-on. Often, we have to step outside our comfort zones and push ourselves to break free from our familiar and comfortable routines and just embrace change and uncertainties.

By allowing ourselves to try and explore new things, we are also giving ourselves the perfect opportunity to break free from our routines and discover more about ourselves.

Yes, I know that sounds terrifying and intimidating. I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t terrified of opening myself up to change and the uncertainties of trying new things.

But it is through our willingness to step into the unknown and allow ourselves to embrace new things and experiences that personal growth occurs.

9. Remember To Be Patient With Yourself Along The Way

Rebuilding yourself is challenging and it’s not a straight path. You will encounter some setbacks and struggles along the way that’s why it’s crucial to be patient with yourself through this process.

I know how easy it is to be frustrated with ourselves every time we feel like we are not making any progress or we are not making enough. We are often too quick to criticize ourselves and beat ourselves up for not meeting our expectations and goals right away.

But doing that is only going to make things harder for you and it’s just going to make you feel worse about yourself. Recognize that what you are doing is a brave and amazing thing.

One of the most important things that you can do while you are going through the process of rebuilding yourself is to give yourself the necessary time and space to heal, learn and grow.

Being patient with yourself is accepting that healing and personal growth is a journey that unfolds gradually. Instead of constantly focusing your attention on your every little flaw and mistake, it’s so much better to spend that energy celebrating even your smallest victories and milestones.

10. Practice Gratitude

It’s so easy to get caught up in our worries and negative thoughts. When I was rebuilding myself, one of the mistakes that I made is allowing myself to focus my attention and energy on all the obstacles and struggles that I was facing.

I thought that by doing this I was making myself more accountable and motivated but it was only doing the exact opposite. By focusing only on all the bad things and difficulties in my life, slowly I was getting less and less motivated to keep taking the steps necessary to improve my life.

I was becoming bitter and angry at the world and quite frankly, I was beginning to feel hopeless. That’s why it’s so important to practice gratitude.

By practicing gratitude, you are allowing yourself to shift your focus and perspective from the challenges you are facing to the positive areas and aspects of your life.

Being grateful doesn’t mean that you are minimizing the difficulties in your life. It means that you are opening yourself up to the fact that even though times are difficult right now, there is still something to be grateful for, regardless of how small it may seem.

Doing this did not only help motivate me more but it also helped me find the hope and strength that I was looking for to keep moving forward.

11. Practice Forgiveness

While I was going through this transition, I’ve learned that often rebuilding yourself is not only about making positive changes in your habits and routines in life, sometimes it’s also about learning to break free from the pains of the past.

I know how difficult forgiveness can be. When I was growing up, the people that I love the most were constantly criticizing me and constantly making me feel that I was never enough.

I would be constantly compared to other people and it was always made clear to me that my worth was tied to my achievements, without it, I was nothing.

And I hated them for it and for how they made me feel. I took that anger and resentment with me and I held on to it for years.

I thought that doing that was helping me but when I found myself at my lowest, I’ve realized that the only thing that it was doing was hurting me over and over again.

It was taking over my life and it was clouding my perspective on how I see things. I realized that by holding on to my anger, I was still giving their words power over me.

Forgiveness is not about minimizing the wrong things that they have done or the pain that they have caused you.

It is about setting yourself free from the burden that you have been carrying for so long and finally allowing yourself the chance to heal and move forward.

Also, I know that often forgiving others is so much easier than forgiving ourselves that’s why I want you to remember that you as much as anybody else also deserves your forgiveness.

Forgiving yourself doesn’t mean that you are ignoring your mistakes or not holding yourself accountable for them.

It just means that you acknowledge the fact that as humans, we are all bound to make mistakes, what matters is we identify the lessons that they hold and make the necessary changes moving forward.

Here’s a great post from Verywell Mind that’ll help you learn how to forgive yourself.

12. Remember That Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

Your fear of failure and making mistakes is often one of the challenges that you will face when rebuilding yourself.

When we are going through the process of creating a better life for ourselves, I know that all we want to see are improvements.

Sometimes we even try to control every little thing and detail in our life just to prevent things from going wrong and to avoid failure.

But the reality is, rebuilding ourselves is often about facing setbacks and failures along the way. Regardless of how hard we try to control everything just to avoid them, sometimes it’s just not possible.

Instead of beating yourself up and criticizing yourself for failing and making mistakes, it’s best to acknowledge mistakes as stepping stones to learning and improvement.

Instead of seeing mistakes as a bad thing, let’s try to see mistakes as proof that we are actually trying and doing something to better our lives.

Let’s embrace those mistakes with open arms for they are avenues to our personal growth and success.

Final Thoughts

Please remember that rebuilding yourself is a personal journey, each of us progresses at our own pace. The best thing that we can do is to not compare our journey and milestones with others.

Before I end this post, I want to leave you with this. Throughout your journey in rebuilding yourself, please remember to give yourself grace and love. It’s okay to stumble.

It’s okay to fail and make mistakes. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Celebrate each and every milestone, no matter how small and insignificant they may seem.

Remember that rebuilding yourself is a life-long journey and we may have to do it countless of times, one of the best things that we can do is to just embrace the journey, cherish each and every progress, and use all the lessons as fuel to help us keep pushing forward.

Believe in your ability to create a better life and keep taking the necessary steps towards it. You can do this.