Life consists of ups and downs. One moment you are at your highest, everything is going your way, and then the next moment you find yourself screaming “My life is falling apart “at the top of your lungs.
These are the times when life just seems to keep knocking you down. Moments where you’re slapped with one failure after another, face overpowering grief and heartbreak, and an insurmountable amount of problems.
When you feel like your life is falling apart and everything is just going from bad to worse, finding the motivation to stand up and put your life back together may not come so easily.
Often, you just become so overwhelmed with it all that you end up paralyzed and unable to do anything about it.
I’ve been there. I’ve seen that dark hole that life sucks you in when everything around you is falling apart.
And it took time for me to even muster the strength to face it, do something about it and start changing it. For the longest time, I was stuck in a loop of self-destruction. I was so overwhelmed with the constant stress and heartbreak that I keep sabotaging my efforts.
If you’re feeling the same way, please know that you’re not alone. There is hope and you’re capable of turning your life around.
In this article, I have put together a list of coping strategies and steps that have tremendously helped me while was going through the lowest point of my life. I’m hoping that these will help you too.
Below Are 10 Things To Do When Your Life is Falling Apart
1. Take It Day By Day
Whenever my life is falling apart, the thought of facing so many problems and worries can easily overwhelm and paralyze me. I can’t tell you the number of days that doing this has prevented me from getting out of bed and falling asleep.
I’ve learned that it’s important to just take life day by day. Focus all your energy on the things you can do now.
Constantly allowing yourself to worry about the future will only cause you so much stress and often it can easily drain any motivation and hope left in you.
Learn to focus on the present moment and put all your energy into the things that you can do now and the changes that you can make today that’ll help improve your life.
2. Learn To Sit With Your Feelings
I think it’s safe to say that most of us are guilty of running away from what we feel and from choosing to keep all our emotions bottled up. (guilty)
You may think that doing this is the best thing to do. I’ve had this mindset for years.
Whenever my life is falling apart, I always thought that sitting with my feelings and letting myself cry and grieve is not going to help me in any way. I thought that it would make me feel worse.
But on the contrary, bottling up my emotions only made everything heavier. It only made it harder for me to get through it.
It made me realize that the more that we ran away from the pain, the longer we are keeping ourselves from healing and from moving forward.
So, don’t be afraid to let yourself feel the pain, the heartbreak. Cry, scream if you must.
Know that it’s only when we learn to sit with our emotions and feel them that we give way to healing, letting go, and finally being able to move forward.
3. Learn To Accept The Things You Can’t Control
When everything in my life is falling apart, I’ve always thought that the only way for me to turn it around and prevent it from happening again is by controlling every little aspect of my life.
But man was I wrong. Spending all your time trying to control everything in your life will only make you miserable. It will only disappoint you more and not to mention how a waste of time it is.
Because regardless of how hard we try to control everything in our lives, there will always be things that are out of control.
Instead of spending all your time and energy trying to control those things, why not focus your attention on the things that you can actually control.
Learn to let go and accept that some things are beyond your control, breathe and focus all your energy on the things that you can instead.
Doing this will not only help alleviate your stress but it will also help you focus on the little changes that you can make to help better your life.
4. Practice Self-Care
When life is falling apart, self-care is most certainly the last thing on our minds. But here’s the thing, when we are going through difficult times, taking care of our mental health and practicing self-care couldn’t be more important.
When I hit rock bottom, I was struggling to make the ends meet and I was constantly worried about where we will get the money for our next meal, of course, prioritizing my mental health was definitely out of the question.
I didn’t realize that doing this only made things worse. It made it even harder for me to focus and most days, I was so drained and overwhelmed that I ended up not doing anything to better our situation.
Self-care doesn’t have to cost you anything. Self-care can be as simple as allowing yourself that extra nap.
It could also be reading a motivational book or listening to a motivational podcast.
It could be anything that will help you recharge and just breathe. Doing this will not only greatly benefit your mental health but it will also help you be more productive and gain more motivation.
5. Practice Daily Gratitude
When your life is falling apart, it’s so easy to find nothing to be grateful for. I mean, when everything is just going from bad to worse, surely there is nothing in our lives worth being grateful for, right?
I’ve thought this too. When I was at my lowest, being grateful was extremely difficult, especially when you’re already facing so many problems every single day.
But I’ve realized that by constantly clinging to this thought, we are only making things harder for us. Doing this will only make you bitter and angry which will eventually lead you to feel hopeless and unmotivated to do anything.
Remind yourself that regardless of how hard things are, there will always be something to be grateful for. Learn to look around you and see the good and wonderful things that you still have.
Be grateful for the little things and learn to find hope in them.
Start by writing at least five things that made you smile today, nothing is too small, do this every day for a week and you will see tremendous changes in your outlook toward life which will help you become even more motivated to do the work needed to improve your situation.
Whenever I feel like my life is falling apart, the first thing I do is beat myself up for letting this happen.
But doing this did not make things better for me. It only made me feel worse about myself. It only made me stop believing in what I can do and it made me feel like a total failure every single day.
When you’re going through a tough time, learn to be kind to yourself. Stop beating yourself up and recognize instead that you are trying and that you are doing something to improve and turn your life around — that is something that you should be proud of.
Learn to forgive yourself for all your mistakes. Trust that you are capable of putting your life back together. Treat yourself as a best friend and stop being your worst critic.
Doing this will not only greatly benefit your mental health but it will also help you feel more confident to take on problems and more determined to make the changes needed to better your life.
Start by looking yourself in the mirror and give yourself at least three compliments. Celebrate every win and remember no win is too small.
When you are kind to yourself, you are also learning to love yourself more and accept yourself wholeheartedly.
7. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help
Often, when your life falls apart, you think that the best way to fix this or turn this around is to do it all by yourself.
I’m guilty of this too. Whenever I feel like everything in my life is going wrong, I find it difficult to reach out and ask for help. I would always rather fix everything by myself.
But often, we may face problems that are just too big for us to face alone. We may face an insurmountable pain that we feel like we just can’t get through it on our own.
Remind yourself that it’s okay to ask for help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It doesn’t diminish your strength or value in any way.
Don’t be afraid to allow yourself to be vulnerable and reach out to the people that you love. You can start talking to the people you trust the most.
8. Just Take One Small Step
When I hit rock bottom, everything in my life was falling apart, I was so overwhelmed with the stress and the financial problems (and not to mention the grief that I was facing from losing a loved one) that often, finding solutions to my problems and taking the necessary steps needed to change my life was just too overwhelming.
I was paralyzed. I was so caught up with worrying about what I needed to do and the problems that I had to face daily that it became too impossible for me to actually do anything.
If you’re feeling the same way, please know that you don’t have to figure everything out all at once. You don’t have to do everything at once.
Sometimes the best thing that you can do is to take that one small step. It could be as simple as getting out of bed.
Know that when your life is falling apart, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed with everything that’s happening. Don’t feel like you have to tackle everything at once.
Navigating and coping with difficult moments doesn’t always have to be about taking huge leaps. Sometimes, it could all be about taking small steps every day.
Remember that these small steps will eventually lead you to achieve your goals and better your life.
9. Write Down Your Goals
When you feel like your life is falling apart, it’s easy to feel like everything that is happening to you is just too big for you to fix.
It’s easy to feel hopeless and to start thinking that there’s just nothing you can do to turn your life around and get yourself out of this hole.
I’ve learned that one of the ways to overcome this feeling is to write down all your goals and things that you can and need to do to fix your problems.
Write down all your long-term and short-term goals. Be specific and of course, realistic about it. It helps to write down a time frame after every goal.
Once you’re done doing this, write down all the things that you can do to help you achieve this goal. For you to not feel overwhelmed, it’s best to break down big tasks into small manageable tasks.
Doing this will help show you that putting your life back together is not impossible. You can make it happen. It’ll give you the push and the motivation that you need to get through this hard time.
10. Trust That This Is Just Temporary
When you’re going through difficult seasons and hard times, it’s easy to think that your life will only go from bad to worse. It’s easy to think that things will never get better and that you will always struggle.
When I was going through the lowest season of my life, I also felt so hopeless that I started believing that I will never be able to put my life back together. I started believing that my life will always be this way.
I will always struggle. I will always face disappointments and failures.
But let me tell you, how wrong I was.
Yes, things may seem hard and dark now but this is only temporary. This is not the end. The only constant thing in this world is change.
Whatever it is that you are going through right now is not permanent. Things will get better. You will get through this.
These are some of the helpful things I do to help me cope and navigate, whenever I feel like my life is falling apart.
Remember that everyone’s journey is different. Some of the things listed here may not apply to you, and that’s 100% okay. Take the things you find helpful to your journey.
Before I end this article, I want you to know that right now, everything may seem too overwhelming and too difficult that you’re not sure if you will be able to pick yourself up.
Years ago, I found myself at the lowest point of my life. I had quit my job because of mental health reasons, without any savings and any safety net. (I know, what I bad decision, right?) I was constantly struggling to make the ends meet. Constantly worrying about how I will continue to provide for them.
And on top of that, I was also grieving the loss of a loved one. Everything just feels too much that I thought that I will never be able to turn my life around. I thought that I will always struggle and that I will never make it out of that difficult season.
But I did and you can too. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep going. Trust that this difficult season will pass. You will get to the other side stronger, braver, and wiser. You have within you this invaluable strength that will help you get through the most difficult and painful seasons.
Keep fighting and know that you are doing your best. Be proud of yourself.