5 Things to Remember when Depression is hitting you the hardest

Battling depression is my constant struggle.

Hate Guilt & Worthlessness – Those are the things I constantly wake up to.

Hate for allowing myself to fall into this never-ending nightmare.

Guilt for not being able to constantly help pay the bills.

For not being completely present (emotionally and mentally) for the people that I love.

And worthlessness, for still being trapped in this deep dark hole.

Most days, I just feel too exhausted to even feel anything.

And that’s the thing about depression, it rips you apart and it drains every bit of life left in you.

It tells you all these lies – making you believe that you are worthless and a complete failure.

These lies are often the reason why I’m trapped in bed – feeling like a prisoner in my own body.

Most days, I just lie in bed, wanting to scream and to get away but too exhausted, too drained to move.

I didn’t want to spend my days like this.

I didn’t want for all those lies to keep controlling me.

I don’t want to let depression win.

That’s when I started to make these little reminders.

Reminders that’ll help me get through days when depression is hitting me the hardest and to even make my days a little more bearable.

And I wanted to share these with you too, that’s why today I have decided to share with you 5 Things to Remember when Depression is hitting you the hardest. 

These reminders are just small things but on most days, they help push me to continue fighting.

I’m hoping it will do the same for you.

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You are not a burden

Depression usually makes us feel like we are burdening other people.

It does this to me – almost every day.

On days where I’m trapped in bed, paralyzed in what I’m feeling, I know that there are a lot of things that I needed to do.

Yet I don’t have the energy to even get out of bed.

So, the people that I love end up doing it for me.

And that just makes me hate myself.

I feel so useless and that I’m only burdening them with my problems.

But I’m not and you’re not either.

You are not a burden.

Don’t listen to what depression is telling you – it’s a lie!

Because the truth is, you are important!

And there are so many people in your life who only wants the best for you.

They want to be with you in every step of your battle with depression.

So, don’t let depression make you feel like you are not important.

Because you are – always remember that.

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Depression is not a sign of weakness or brokenness. 

Being diagnosed with Depression completely changed how I saw myself.

It made me believe that I was weak.

That I was not strong enough to prevent this from happening.

It made me believe that I didn’t have the emotional and mental strength to face life.

But that was a complete lie.

Depression is not a sign of weakness.

It’s not a sign of brokenness.

You are so much stronger than you think.

You are struggling with this every day yet you are still fighting, still trying to overcome it – that is strength.

Don’t let depression shape the way you see yourself.

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This is not your fault

On days where depression is hitting me the hardest, I lie in bed constantly beating myself up.

I blame myself for being in this position.

For letting this happen to me.

Doing this did not help me in any way.

It was just placing me in a much worse position than I already was.

I didn’t need that and you don’t need that either.

So, stop blaming yourself.

Stop beating yourself up for every mistake, for being in this position.

This is not your fault.

The important thing is you’re here and you are fighting.

Be proud of yourself for doing that!

You are so important

I’ve had a lot of goals.

A lot of things that I wanted to achieve.

Dreams that needs to be pursued.

But after falling into the trap of depression, it’s like everything was put on hold.

My life was placed on hold.

I felt like a complete failure.

I was too exhausted to even try to do the things that I once loved.

Or to go after the things that I wanted.

I felt like I was no longer important.

That I no longer served a purpose and that everything will be better off without me.

But that is exactly what depression wants you to believe.

That is not the truth.

No matter how much you are struggling right now, please know that you are so important.

Your life will not be defined by depression.

You were placed in this world for a purpose – always remember that!

You can still be happy

You can still be happy.

This statement may be a little bit hard to believe.

Especially, when you are lying in bed, staring at the ceiling while depression continues to consume you.

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I’m frequently on that spot.

And I kept reminding myself that life will never get better for me.

That it will only get worse and that happiness is just nothing but a thing in the past.

But it’s not.

You can still be happy.

I have depression, and most days I struggle to fight it but that doesn’t mean that I am not happy.

The more that I started to really hang on to that statement the easier it was for me to find the beauty and happiness in the smallest things.

Even for just having the strength to take a shower or organize my room.

Our depression may be constantly present.

But that doesn’t mean that we cannot be happy.

We may be going through so much pain and hurt but in the presence of pain, we can also find strength, hope, and beauty.

So, always remember that you can still be happy.

Fighting depression for me is a constant battle every day. There will always be darker days. Days where we need to fight extra hard to get through it but there will also be good days. Days where everything feels lighter and easier. So, keep hanging on for those good days.

Remember, that you are strong enough to face whatever it is that you are going through.

You are a fighter!

Do you have anything to add on this list? Let me know in the comment section below or send me an email, I’d love to hear from you!

7 thoughts on “5 Things to Remember when Depression is hitting you the hardest

  • October 11, 2018 at 9:02 pm
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    Thank you so much for writing this. I cried reading every word. I am at my very lowest right now. I am still trying every day, but I just don’t know how much longer I can take the pain, anxiety and depression. I don’t have a very big support team. My husband is my main support. My daughter is in college and my son in HS. I have about two friends that have stuck around. The rest don’t understand or don’t care. It’s a very lonely existence. I want my life back in the worst way!

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    • October 11, 2018 at 9:28 pm
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      Hi Amy, thank you for leaving this comment. You have touched my heart ❤️ I’m so sorry that you feel this way. I know how painful it is to wake up every single day greeted by pain, hopelessness, and guilt. Most days, I even find living pointless. But I want you to know that though life seems dark and painful right now – we will make it through. You are strong enough to overcome this and you are never alone Amy. ❤️ You are loved by your husband, son, and daughter – always remember, that you’re important! Sending you big hugs! ❤️

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  • October 14, 2018 at 10:15 pm
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    Hi! Thank you for this. I am currently suffering depression and it is consuming me. I have friends that I know can understand me but I don’t want to talk to anyone right now. I want to find myself. I know I need to fight this alone so I can be stronger. I am trapped with my low self and depression. I don’t really know where to start. I need to get a life. But how long will I suffer. Been two days now that I don’t want to get up to bed. Cannot even think straight. I also have a boyfriend whom I know can understand my situation right now, but I don’t want to talk. I am crying while reading your article. Thanks for I somehow see sunshine with your article. I hope this will end soon.

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    • March 7, 2021 at 3:13 pm
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      Hey….if you have depression you’re already fighting harder than a ton of other people. You do NOT have to go it alone!
      If you friends want to be there let them!
      Most importantly make sure you see a doctor ASAP✅
      There are meds out there that can make an amazing difference, if you need them take them.
      And really, lean on the people who want to be there for you. You might feel like a burden at first, but they wouldn’t have affected if they didn’t want to help.
      Depression is a monster and sometimes it takes a team to effectively battle back.
      Good luck and best wishes with your treatment!

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  • May 22, 2020 at 7:24 am
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    I know all of the points you make are true but I just can’t make them apply to me. I have battled depression and anxiety for so many years. Been to so many doctors, taken so many meds with no success. I have no support. The only family I have left are a married son and a married brother and sadly they have told me that I am a burden. I am 66 years old and I know that God loves me but as you already know encouragement and support are vital especially from family for anyone who suffers with depression. I miss myself and wish I were strong enough to not let others ignorance hurt me. Fortunately I have a wonderful Christian Psychologist who does his very best to try to encourage me.

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  • July 24, 2020 at 9:50 am
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    You know…I ended up crying, remembering all the struggle I’ve being dealing with. Sometimes you can get out of bed, go to work, get back to home, do the chores. But all of a sudden all the memories, all these thoughts, this pain in the chest, and the feeling of not being able to breath hits you so hard….then you start crying and start questioning yourself “why?” Being honest I would like to know how this pain can be vanished….

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  • December 20, 2020 at 6:54 am
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    Hi my name is Angela campbell
    And I am disabled confined to a wheelchair.
    I am forty six years old and I still live with my parents
    Oh I failed to mention that I am a double amputee I have been now
    For the past seventeen years I’m just lucky to be alive I guess after reading your story
    I realized nothing is that bad things could be worse however I do get bored easily. However I work part time. One day a week. Thank you for your story.

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