The past year has been by far the most difficult and challenging season for me – a season that included losing a loved one due to an illness, falling into the pit of depression, job loss, and financial problems.
The struggles just came too fast. It was difficulties after difficulties. It was debilitating, painful and suffocating – I struggled almost every single day.
I remembered asking myself: What am I still doing here? Why am I still here?
I felt like there was nothing left for me to do because every time I try, everything just keeps falling apart.
Every time I try to stand back up, life keeps pulling me back down and no matter how much I try to pull myself out of the darkness, there’s just no way out.
Most days, I even feel like I don’t have enough strength to continue – it was just too much.
At some point, we may find ourselves stranded in this season – trapped in darkness, heartaches, disappointments, and losses.
We keep trying, we keep fighting, we keep pushing ourselves but no matter what we do, nothing seems to work out.
No matter how much effort we put in, everything still shatters – everything still goes wrong.
I was trapped in this season – and sometimes I still find myself casually visiting this dark place.
And I know how painful and difficult it is to push yourself to keep going, to be excited about the future when everything that’s in front of you are losses, heartaches, and pain.
So, during this season and especially on days where you feel like you have zero strength to continue here’s what I want you to remind yourself — here are 5 Truths to Keep you going when everything goes wrong.
Your present situation is not your final destination
When we are struggling, facing so much pain, experiencing so many setbacks it’s always so easy for us to think and assume that tomorrow will be the same.
I was like that. I had good days, okay days and bad days but regardless of the joy and the happiness that I may have felt during my good days, I never held on to them.
I always assume that things can only go from bad to worse and that’s just how my life is always going to be.
And it’s not. So, if you too are feeling this way, remember this: The best time of our lives may still be ahead of us, but if we don’t learn to look past the pain, the losses, the setbacks, we will never be able to focus on the good things that could be or the good things that will be.
Change is constant. Life changes and so can you. You can still change your circumstances, you can still change your present situation.
Whatever it is that you’re feeling now, you don’t have to feel this way for the rest of your life.
You don’t have to live your life always feeling defeated and exhausted – you have the power to change it.
You have the power to create more good days and even greater days.
Your present situation doesn’t have to be your final destination – you just have to be willing to do anything to make that a reality.
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Every ending leads to a new beginning
Last year, a lot of beautiful chapters of my life came to an end — that was painful, heartbreaking and devastating.
And for a long time, I held on to that end. I held on to the pain, sufferings, the loss, the rejections, and the disappointments.
Instead of focusing all my energy and attention on the things that could be, I continued to live in the pain of the past – that was just dreadful.
At some point in our lives, we all experience a chapter ending, a door closing, some are bearable but some endings can turn your whole world upside down and trap you in the pain.
During these moments, I find that the best thing and most freeing thing to do is to acknowledge and accept that at some point, every chapter in our lives has to come to an end and no matter how difficult it may be, we just have to trust that the endings, the closed doors that we have faced are not the END.
Recognize that things have to end, doors have to close, to make way for something better – to make way for a beautiful beginning.
Every struggle is an opportunity for growth
As silly as this sounds, when I was younger, I always wanted a pain-free life. I wanted to live a life without having to face disappointments, heartaches, and losses.
Because I thought I was not strong enough to go through them or to overcome them.
And of course, that life that I was wishing for was impossible.
Now, after facing some of the most difficult storms, I’ve realized that often, struggles are needed in order for us to grow, in order for us to succeed.
You see, I always believed that I was not strong enough to endure heartaches, losses and a lot of rejections and up to this day, I’m still proving that belief false.
And I wouldn’t have known that if it wasn’t for the adversities that I’ve been through.
Each difficulty, each struggle is always an opportunity for us to grow, to become the person who we are meant to be.
Each adversity that we face teaches us a lesson. They prepare us for the next step that we need to take to achieve our greatest purpose.
Know that each pain, each loss, each rejection doesn’t go wasted – they all leave something in us, something that we need in order for us to achieve our life’s purpose.
Every effort counts – no matter how small they may be
I can’t tell you how many times I woke up to disappointments, setbacks, struggles, and heartaches for the past 6 months.
And every time, I feel like I’m finally able to pull myself back up, something just drags me back down.
I started to believe that regardless of what I do, regardless of how many times I try, life will never get better.
I started to believe that my efforts were just a waste because no matter what I do, change is still not happening.
I’m still stuck in the same nightmare.
I know there will be days when we feel this way, like all the efforts that we put in are just not being seen, that they are just not making any difference – so there’s really no point in trying anymore.
And you know why I felt that way? I felt that way because I didn’t have enough patience to wait for change to really take place.
I was so caught up in wanting my situation to change right away, to see more progress, to reach my goal faster but truth be told, we can’t expect change, progress, and success to happen in just a snap of a finger
It takes gradual, continues efforts. Stop letting yourself believe that just because you’re not seeing any progress, your efforts are all wasted – because it’s not.
Every time you choose to get up and get things done when all you really wanted was to lie in bed, makes a difference.
Every effort that you put in, regardless of how small they are, as long as you do them consistently will get you to where you need to be.
Keep believing and keep pushing yourself.
It’s okay to not be okay all the time
Yes, I know that this is cliché but sometimes we still have a hard time believing this.
I did. I constantly beat myself up for feeling low and defeated. I hated myself for not being okay.
I mean, I wanted so bad to just feel the way I felt before, before all the heartaches, that I find it unacceptable to still feel devastated and still be in pain.
If you too are feeling this way, here’s what I want you to know: What you’re feeling is valid. The pain that you’re feeling is valid.
I know you’ve been putting on a tough face but you don’t have to. Know that it’s completely okay for you to not have it all together all the time. It’s okay for you to cry, to mourn, to vent out – it’s okay to feel.
You don’t have to keep pushing your emotions and feelings aside. I know that being vulnerable can be scary, often we may see this as a weakness.
But it’s not. It takes courage to admit to yourself that you’re not okay. It takes strength to acknowledge the pain that you feel.
Life can sometimes feel too difficult, too overwhelming and unfair but whatever it is that you are going through right now, regardless of how low and defeated you may feel, I want you to know that this is not the end. Life has so much in store for you.
You can still achieve your goals and make your dreams a reality. You are strong enough to pass this. Take it one day at a time, beat one fight at a time, take one step at a time and you will get there.
You can do this – I believe in You!
What are your daily mantras to keep you going on days when you feel like everything’s falling apart? Let me know in the comment section below or send me an email, I would love to hear from you!
I am not a licensed therapist. If you are suffering from a major disorder and need treatment please seek the help of a professional to get the help you deserve.